Archive for March, 2010

And on Top of Everything Else, There’s Lunch

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

The girls and I have been watching Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution with horror, laughter, sadness, and some major reality checks.

My oldest daughter, in particular, suffered from my inability to cook for the first few years of her life. I admit it, she ate a lot of chicken nuggets for dinner. About a year into single parenthood, I decided it was time for me to figure this out. After trying many different sites and books for those quick and easy healthy dinners, I found my best choice: DreamDinners. Now that the girls are old enough, they join me once a month to assemble the meals that come with really easy instructions and either sides or healthy side ideas and recipes to complete the meal.

The girls eat school lunches once a week, but I’ve always found it cheaper to make their lunches. Oliver’s lunch room drama has only reinforced that decision. It’s ridiculous that federal guidelines allow for so much processed food to become a regular part of our children’s diets. At the same time, it’s ridiculous that some schools/teachers make a child sit on a bench during recess as a consequence instead of running around and getting the exercise they need – and expending some energy that just might help them stay better focused in class.

We were horrified that on Oliver’s show, no one in first grade knew any of those vegetables, but we also still need to do better with our own vegetable intake. I’m not a big believer in the whole “hide the vegetables” philosophy. It’s my job to bring these children into adulthood with the knowledge to feed themselves. How will they know how to do that if they don’t learn what vegetables they like?

This Revolution is just another example of how much our children lose when the curriculum is narrowed to only reflect what’s on the standardized tests. After all, I can send my children to school with the healthiest lunches, but if no one ever tells me that my daughter throws it all away and her friends share their school lunches of pizza and buy her a soda from the vending machine, then my child is no better off. If my daughter has too much homework to help me in the kitchen, then she’s not learning a valuable skill she’ll need as an adult, in college or not.

Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution is another example of how parents and teachers all need to learn to work together to help our children thrive.

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5 Things I Learned When I Became a Parent

Tuesday, March 30th, 2010
 
I was 22 years old when I started teaching. I had no responsibilities, could work all day and relax and play all night (after planning that was). 
 
For 10 years I watched children come to school at 8am and at 3 o’clock I sent them home again. Except for parent teacher interviews I had little thought about what went on at home.
 
At 32 I became a parent and found out so many things I never knew before. And now I am a working mum of Dusty who is lovingly cared for by many young teachers at Day Care. 
 
Here is what I now know, that I never really understood before having a child:
 
Parents are tired.
 
I am lucky. Dusty slept through the night from 6 months. But she is an early riser and some days she is up at 4am ready for cereal “Because it is Day time now”. But my friend Kellie has 3 kids aged 9 down to 2 and has not slept through the night for 9 whole years. 
 
As a young teacher I never understood how hard it is to be a great mom on very little sleep. Now I have some empathy.
 
It took effort to get here.
 
As a young teacher I would get up, have breakie, get ready and head to school. As a parent I also have to get a little person ready. That is the easy part. Getting to day care takes hard work. In between ‘bottom burps’, projectile vomits, missing shoes and screaming I also had to combat peak hour traffic. 
 
Bad mornings take on a whole new meaning with kids.
 
Life Happens
 
I now realise that while education is important, life is what really matters. If a parent lets me know of a family problem, change in schedule or even a late night I understand. 
 
Parents really are asking for help.
 
At the moment my husband and I are having issues getting Dusty to sleep at night. I went into Day Care last week and asked for some ideas. One beautiful teacher just looked at me as if I was crazy. And I have given the same look before to my parents. I am sure she was thinking “You are the parent and a teacher and I am only 22. How would I know anything more than you?”
 
One young male teacher I know is so surprised when parents come in and ask him for advice on parenting their pre-teen daughters. He is shocked because he is closer in age to the child then the parents. 
 
I now know how hard it is to ask for help. And the teacher, no matter what their age, is one of the best people to ask.
 
Improved parent teachers connections are easier to achieve through awareness. I do not believe I became a better teacher just because I became a parent. But I do believe a became a better communicator.
 

April 7th–No Housework Day

Monday, March 29th, 2010

Finally, a day worth it!! I wish there were more of these days in the year or at least, more marketing dollars be spent on making people more aware of April 7th: No Housework Day. I would like this day to become well known. Since I found out about the day, I have often fantasized about it upstaging Mother's Day. Ok, maybe not.

The one chore that I dislike more than anything else is unloading the dishwasher. I have come to resent the efficiency of this machine. You put the dishes in and within hours, the dishes are ready to be put away!!!

What is your least favorite chore? What will you do on April 7th, No Housework Day? How will spread the word so that other people can also partake in this wonderful, hidden day?

It’s Not Apathy; It’s Poverty

Sunday, March 28th, 2010
With the announcement of Obama’s blueprint for NCLB (which is mostly broad statements, and details not yet known), the commentary heard most often is back to the blame game: it’s the parents’ fault or it’s the teachers’ fault.

While I maintain that it is not conclusively one or the other, I was struck most by the commentary that claimed parents didn’t value their children’s education. That just doesn’t sound right to me. Of course, there are some bad parents out there, but what makes so many people think that the majority of parents are apathetic about their children’s education?

The general consensus is that the lowest-income schools are the ones that get the least amount of parental support. However, instead of assuming that it’s because parents don’t care, what I know from having been a resident in one of the largest districts – LAUSD – with one of the highest poverty rates in the country is that most parents are simply trying to survive the day.

When I returned to Los Angeles (because my family is here), I had no home, no job, no car, no checking account and two children who were turning 3 and 6. My ex-husband had destroyed my credit with his drug habit, and I didn’t have a college degree yet because when I graduated high school, I was under contract for a television series. Life just happened and there I was at age 30 with two kids and very few marketable skills.

I started getting back on my feet, but with every gain, there was a new challenge (not to mention the ex-husband drama, a continuing saga). We ended up moving 4 times in 5 years as a result, and with every move came a new school for the girls. I stressed (and continue to stress) every summer break, trying to obtain quality, affordable summer child care. I went back to school and obtained my degree by attending classes two nights a week and on Saturdays and worked full-time.

I know that some teachers and parents at their schools thought I didn’t care about my kids because there were a lot of things I couldn’t attend. I couldn’t attend PTA meetings because they either took place during my workday or on nights that I was in class. I couldn’t attend a science fair because something came up at work. I didn’t sign off on my children’s homework half the time because they did their homework with my parents while I was in class. To this day, I’m still not always sure what time their schools let out because they go straight to their after-school program.

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Are Parents Seen as Outsiders in our Education System?

Saturday, March 27th, 2010

As an educator part of my job is to communicate with parents. When I first began teaching seven years ago I was quite bad at this. In fact, I tried to often avoid face to face situations. This was due to two reasons. First, I was never given classes in college on effective parent and teacher communication. To my understanding this is not an area included in educator programs. However, this is a very important part of an educator’s job. Additionally, I was nervous because I had a bad experience. One of my students cheated and I gave her a zero. I wrote the student’s guardian letters and called as stated in the school policy. The parent never replied. I passed this off as the student not giving the parent the notice and left the zero and figured the parent would eventually question the grade.

Months passed until finally school was almost finished. While taking end of the year exams the student’s mom barged in and began screaming at me that I was a terrible teacher who sat at my desk all day and that she was staying to observe my class. This was definitely not true. I told her she could not observe the class without the principal’s permission because we had final exams. Then I asked her why she was telling me these things. She said her daughter had told her this. When I asked about the cheating she said her daughter told her that I had been mistaken and wrongly accused her of cheating. I was shocked. The mom had read the messages but took the daughter’s word. Later, I found out the parent had been telling me these things because she didn’t want to pay the private school’s tuition. This scarred me for a long time. However, not all parents are like this. I was wrong to quit trying to engage parents.

This past Wednesday on the #PTCHAT chat educators, parents, and other stakeholders gathered to problem solve how schools could make parents feel more involved in their child’s learning.
Here were some of the great ideas shared:

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