A Life-Long Reader at Last?

September 15th, 2011

Maybe it’s because she can read what she wants. Maybe it’s because she can read when she wants. Maybe it’s the Reading Log Workbook, cheering her on to read one million words this school year. Maybe it’s not having to do monthly book reports. Or maybe it’s just because she’s another year older, and has accepted the reading as part of her responsibilities. Whatever it is, I love not having to cajole, beg, plead or stand over her to get her to do her reading anymore.

My 6th grader’s new charter middle school doesn’t have a lot of requirements to go with their 30-minute daily reading assignment. In fact, she doesn’t even have to do it every night; it’s up to her to figure out how to read that amount each week. She’s opted to do it all on Sundays. Part of that is because of our hectic schedule lately, and finding a half-hour a night isn’t feasible many nights. But come Sunday, she reads. It only takes one reminder from me, and she gets out a timer, figures out how long to read before taking a break. She only asks that there be silence while she’s reading, a simple (and frankly, welcome by me) request. My older daughter either goes into her room, or puts on headphones. I get some housework done, and read during my breaks. After each reading session, we use the guide provided in her Reading Log Workbook to figure out how many words she’s read, she writes it down, I sign my initials. She takes her break, and then goes back to reading with no fuss when her break time is over.

This is simply not normal for us. Right or wrong, good or bad, every school year for the last 5 years, I’ve struggled to get her to like reading. It’s been frustrating on varying levels for me. I love to read, and I couldn’t understand why my daughter didn’t. I’ve role modeled a love of books her entire life! I’ve also felt like a failure as a parent because of it. Her summaries were sloppy, not focused on the main points. There were few books she loved. There were months where I helped her finish her monthly book reports far more than I felt comfortable doing, and there were months it didn’t get done. Her grades in that subject struggled, and I struggled with ideas for motivating her.

I think it’s a combination of all of the above, and a few others, that have made this year so different. Her English teacher this year is her favorite, so there’s more intrinsic motivation, and less willingness to tolerate disappointment from this teacher’s eyes. As I write this, she has laughed out loud plenty reading this installment of Harry Potter, one of her greatest current obsessions. This is her last installment of reading for this week, and not once has she checked the timer to see how much time she has left.

However long it took to get here, however many factors play into us being here now, I can only hope that struggles with reading are in the past.

April McCaffery is the single parent to two daughters, in 6th and 9th grade.

Does your hubby help with chores?

August 22nd, 2011

Yesterday, I saw a commercial for Arm & Hammer detergent on TV. There were 2 ladies in the commercial. One of the ladies remarked that her husband asked her if she had bought new towels. (This means that Arm & Hammer is a great detergent, so great that your husand will wonder if you bought new >> insert here<< whatever you washed).

The ad was particularly funny for me as my husband right then was folding laundry that he had just finished doing. So I tweeted out:

My friend responded that advertising assumes that women make those purchasing decisions. Well, let me tell you that I had no idea which laundry detergent we used for the longest time. I didn’t even know that there is a hand-washing option on my washing machine and completely avoided buying any clothes that said “Hand washing” only. My friend also said that advertising is slow to change. So I thought I’d help the process along.

Before I tell you what I did, I also wanted to say that A&H is not alone. Katy on Twitter pointed out another ad from Tide:

This morning, I asked the following questions on Twitter:

And here are the responses I got and I sincerely hope that advertising takes note. I’d love to see an ad with a guy vacuuming, or cleaning or folding laundry, or whatever. It is teamwork and it really takes 2 to tango and I for one would love to see my amazing husband represented. He helps so much.

I will end the post with what Katy said. I also find these ads uber frustrating and unfair. We need to give credit where credit is due. To our wonderful husbands who help. And as Kelly correctly said, it is normal for your life partner to help with chores and we need to stop treating it like it is a big deal and represent the reality of our lives on television.

Tide and Arm & Hammer: Incidentally, Laundry is the #1 chore that men seem to help with.

———-

Why We Chose a Charter Middle School

August 20th, 2011

Photo: Stock Xchng/Bubbels

My youngest daughter starts middle school tomorrow. We’ll be waking up about an hour earlier than last year, I’ll be driving about 30 minutes completely out of my way, and she will start earlier and stay later. So why not the neighborhood middle school? Before she starts, I thought it would be good to write down my reasons for making this decision. As the year progresses, I’ll of course continue to post about how it really turns out.

Leaving what we know. My older daughter just graduated from the neighborhood middle school. While 8th grade was all right, 6th and 7th were not. She struggled both academically and socially. I had to change her counselor, she had to go back into therapy, and she had to go to summer school one year. While it could have gone worse, we barely made it through. It was only when she started to think about her future beyond middle school that she was able to start turning things around.  I was certainly motivated to do things differently this time around.

A trusted recommendation. We chose the charter middle school based on a recommendation by a very trusted educator friend of ours, and after checking it out for ourselves.

She wants to go there.  My daughter responded to the school enthusiastically, and that’s half the battle right there. She pored over the paperwork we’d been given, and the web site. She was excited to go back to school shopping and put her backpack together. We’ll see if it lasts, but her enthusiasm completely validates our decision.

The Parent Coordinator. Yes, that’s actually his title. I have his cell phone, his email, and he made sure to introduce himself when I first went to pick up the application. He has replied to each and every one of my multiple emails with my dozens of questions, thoughtfully and quickly. He even accepted some of the registration forms via email, understanding that it’s a drive for me to get there. He’s not the only one that’s been helpful. The Principal has also been friendly and knowledgeable, the woman in the front office has been helpful, and every teacher I’ve seen has been sure to nod and smile at me. Even a few of the kids stopped me one day and asked me about my child. They said they’d keep their eye out for her, and responded enthusiastically that they love their school.

The Advisory Period. I suppose this could also be considered homeroom, but the advisory class that my daughter will have every day will advise her not only on managing her homework schedule, but on thinking about colleges and her future. I think this will be a great tool in her transition from elementary school to high school prep and beyond.

The After-School Program. My oldest daughter used the City’s free bus program to get to her after-school program. That bus program has just been cut. At the charter middle school, there’s a free after school program on campus. They will have an activity for the first hour, then homework for the second, and other activities after that. I like that homework is in the 2nd hour, giving the students a break from school, but she’ll have both the time and assistance, and opportunities for other interests.

It will be a long year. Longer, in fact, than the neighborhood school because there are 10 more instructional days than the state requirements. I am bracing myself for the transitional period that will potentially involve tears and/or whining. Still, I have enough reasons to think that, in the end, our choice will be the right one.

April McCaffery is the single mother with 2 daughters, going into a charter middle school and an arts high school.

Inspiring Parental Involvement

August 12th, 2011

My friend told me excitedly about meeting her son’s second grade teacher.  She got such a good vibe that she volunteered to grade papers. She added, “can you believe it?”

She’s a hands-on mother, but she still doesn’t see herself as an “involved parent” because of her lack of volunteering on school grounds for the last two years. She has good reason. She works full-time, and she goes in early to be home with her son after school so she’s unavailable during school hours. I take issue with the idea that she’s not involved, but I can understand why she thinks others might see it that way. This teacher has offered ways to help that doesn’t disrupt her work day.

More than that, the teacher’s own involvement was infectious. My friend could feel that this teacher goes the extra mile, and was inspired to do the same.

My own so-called parental involvement has come about for similar reasons.

The first time I volunteered in the school environment was when I could feel that very same vibe at my daughter’s school. The teachers and administrators were inspiring. When they asked ever so politely if any parents were available to help chaperone a field trip in the evening hours, I practically jumped at the chance.

First, it was the wording. They didn’t demand volunteers, they asked. Then, it was the timing. I hadn’t responded to earlier requests for daytime activities because of my work schedule. Throughout the year, there was always a variety of opportunities that made it possible for me to volunteer when I could without feeling guilty for the times I couldn’t.

I was happy to continue giving of my time throughout the year because I was always treated with respect, and the atmosphere was always welcoming.

The past two years, I volunteered as Secretary of the PTA at my younger daughter’s school because of that same warmth and respect I felt with the other parents and administrators, and their understanding when I couldn’t volunteer for certain activities.  (And it certainly helped that they provided child care for the meetings.) And even though my older daughter wasn’t a student at that school, she felt just as welcome there.

In my older daughter’s school that she just completed, I never volunteered for one activity, and never felt any guilt about it. Every time I stepped foot in that middle school for the last three years, I was treated like cattle. It got to the point where we’d be planning our escape before we even walked in.  There were always long lines for everything, there were constant demands for our patience, and only a handful of teachers and one counselor that were pleasant to be around. After graduation, we celebrated that we never had to go back there again.

Schools looking to increase parental involvement should start by looking at how parents are treated when on campus. Is there a warm welcome? Do parents look lost or frustrated, or are they smiling? (Look at all the parents; there are some who will always look miserable, some who will always look happy, but what is the average of the parents there?) Are there a variety of times and ways that parents can volunteer? Can parents keep in touch in a myriad of ways? Schools might want to consider sending an informal survey home for parents to anonymously answer. Are certain frustrations written over and over? What activities are the families’ favorites?

Involve parents by inspiring them.

April McCaffery is the single mom to two daughters, in 6th and 9th grade.

Organizatinal Skills (They’re Important–and Free)

August 10th, 2011

“I forgot to do it.”

That phrase, above, is one we teachers hear all too often. There a many variations of the theme. Too many to list. In fact, I think I’ve forgotten some of them (ironically). In education reform today and the focus on standardized test scores, it has been mentioned that all sorts of remedies to improve performance are there, and we often overlook them. For example: eating a good breakfast, getting enough sleep, reading everyday, and taking good notes are some things a child can do to improve performance at school. The former two are ones that make sense but aren’t usually written about. The latter are examples of things we hear, perhaps too much.

I believe that there is a “technique” that will increase performace. I’ve written that later school start times are essential for student performance. Much has been written about the topic. I have another: student organizational skills. Besides the “I forgot my _______________” or “I forgot to_______________” excuses, I cannot even begin to tell you how many students I’ve seen with disorganized folders or notebooks (or none at all), or how many students I know don’t write down their assignments.

When I was in middle school (I teach it now but was a student in the 1980s), we students were made to purchase “assignment notebooks.” Perhaps you remember these. I don’t see them in stores anymore. Today, despite their elimination, we live in a world where it’s never been harder to forget. Yes, that last sentence read correctly. Teachers can post assignments online, we have computer systems that call home about assignments, note taking is stressed, and of course students can write down assignments on anything (I’ve seen it done on hands and arms). We don’t need assignment notebooks. We need students who remember.

Today’s students are more overwhelmed than ever (see “Race to Nowhere“). Social, economical and societal issues pre-occupy students’ minds, and forgetting has never been easier. Teaching students good organizational skills will, in my opinion, raise grades and improve performance just as well as any other idea. My mother (an RN who has worked in hospitals for over 30 years) talks about studies that show that, all things being equal, patients recover from illnesses more speedily at more attractive wellness facilities. I believe the same logic applies to a student’s desk, notebook , room at home, and notes taken at school.

I get more done with a clean desk. An organized folder is one more pleasant to read, and one that will cause less stress (e.g. “where’s my _______?). Put more simply, better organizational skills will create an environment where assignments, duties, etc. will be less likely to be forgotten. Organizational skills are free. They aren’t difficult, and the payoff is tremendous. As silly as it may sound, my calendar at home is in my bathroom, next to my mirror. Every morning, when I brush my teeth, I’m looking at the mirror and there’s the calendar. I can’t miss it. During the day, when there’s something I need to remember, I make a written not of it and put it in my pocket. When I get home and empty my pockets, there’s the note. If it’s something for the next day, I write it on the calendar, which I see first thing in the morning.

The moral of the story is this: remembering what needs to be done is half the battle. It’s the easy half.

_________

Mr. Franklin has been teaching for the Los Angeles Unified School District for eleven years. He has won District and County Teacher of the Year awards, as well as the prestigious Bank of America Community Hero award. Before teaching, he spent five years at Learning Forum, which runs summer camps world-wide that increase student academic potential.

Improve the web with Nofollow Reciprocity.