Posts Tagged ‘Home’

In Pursuit of Order

Friday, July 16th, 2010

I have a confession to make. My daughter is more organized than me. How can that be? She is not even 3.

Was I just lucky enough to get a daughter like this or have I somehow trained her?

I doubt it! It has very little to do with me. You see she goes to a Montessori Day Care Centre where a sense of order and structure is very important.

Sensitive period for order starts from birth and peaks at 18 months to 2.5 years and prolongs to age five. This is characterized by a desire for consistency and repetition. There exists a passionate love for established routines and is when a child may seem disturbed by disorder. The “terrible twos” are often exaggerated reactions to small disruptions in order that is not perceived by adults. The environment therefore must be carefully ordered with a place for everything and with carefully established ground rules. It is also important to have external order as order in their environment where there is an appropriate place for everything as this helps the child also establish their internal order.

Daily Montessori

My daughter thrives in the Montessori environment because of her intense need for structure and routine. In fact, she has been known to ‘take the class’ of 16 toddlers and repeat the morning routine to the entire class from the morning song to the story to the music lesson. She feels safe because she knows what is going to happen next. The same happens at home and at her Grandparents Farm. She can feel comfortable in every activity because of the established routine.

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But as a parent sometimes this need for routine is painful. Because my husband and I don’t realise we have even established a routine.

Example : As a joke my husband stepped on Dusty’s towel on the way to the shower. She thought it was great fun so asked him to do it again the next night. Bam! New shower routine was created without us realising. It took about 2 weeks to break this ‘routine’.

From the time Dusty wakes up until she goes to bed she experiences constant routines. We as a family have created routines and order for so many activities – the way we brush her teeth, how we get her lunch ready, the way we say goodbye, the afternoon routine and the bed routine. And those routines help us function successfully as a family. They help her feel safe and also develop her independence.

Summer holidays are great! A chance to unwind and relax and forget all about the hustle and bustle of getting ready for school, and rushing home to get dinner started and homework completed. But all children, not just toddlers, need a sense of order and routine.

So when you start thinking about buying new school supplies and new school clothes also think about what routines need to be put in place so your children, or students, have a successful start to the year.

By Ainslie Hunter. For more information on choosing pre-schools, see How to Choose a Pre-School.

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Dad and Daughter Dates

Thursday, July 8th, 2010

It is Sunday afternoon and I have just stood at the door and waved goodbye to my husband and daughter. They are off to the park.

Each week my daughter asks me to go with them, but I try not to. It is not that I don’t like parks or being outside. And whilst home alone does give me time to do some jobs and writing, that isn’t why I don’t go with them.

I want my daughter and husband to have a strong relationship and spend real quality time together without me. I know they have a great time at the park. They come home dirty, laughing and have a new ‘war story’. My daughter is fiercely independent and adventurous and will not stop until she has climbed as high as her daddy. I sometimes want to remind my husband that he shouldn’t expect so much of her when she isn’t even three.

But then I stop and think that maybe she is strong and fit and courageous because my husband encourages all those attributes when they are on their play dates together.

Cooking

The other activity that my husband regularly does with our daughter is cooking. Most evenings they are in the kitchen discussing new vegetables, talking about how to bake a cake or arguing about who gets to use the peeler next. It is great to hear and wonderful to watch that bonding and learning taking place between father and daughter. Sometimes I want to join them, but I stop myself.

Daughters and Their Dad’s.

I always had a great relationship with my father. I truly believe that my strong independence stems from my father always encouraging me to be adventurous from an early age. I never once doubted myself because he taught me to give everything a go and if it didn’t work out, he would be there with a helping hand.

And that is what I want for my daughter.

I want her to give everything a try! Be brave! Get dirty and wet. To climb the highest tree without a care in the world. To fall and know everything is ok because her dad is always there.

It is my hope that these dates continue as our daughter gets older. Whilst the activity may change, I hope the enjoyment and relationship doesn’t change. Because my husband values these opportunities just as much as his daughter!

By Ainslie Hunter

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Connecting the home and school for our kids’ success

Tuesday, May 18th, 2010

One of the things I have struggled with in relation to parenting has been my daughters’ education.  While I am aware of my general lack of time as a work at home mom, and sometimes, though it pains me to admit it, my patience is not always what I think it should be, I have struggled with the question of whether I should be teaching my daughter at home rather than sending her to school every day.

However, as I learned early on, I didn’t have to just send her out the door in the morning and pick her up again in the afternoon. In fact, our school encouraged my volunteering and I watched my daughter flourish as her teacher, school administrators and I worked together to provide a comprehensive learning environment that spanned from the living room to the classroom and back again.  I found that through my volunteering I was able to touch many children’s lives who did not have the same familial structure or level of parental involvement my daughter has, I was able to spend 3 hours a week reading with children who touched my heart and taught me the importance of parental outreach in schools.  When you volunteer your time, you are not only supporting the teachers, you are helping to enrich the students lives.

As parents we have the unique ability to effect our children’s learning both inside and outside of the classroom. When parents support their children’s schools, classrooms, and parent-teacher organizations by donating time, services, or products they show their children they believe in their education and they make it easier for their schools to offer more learning opportunities for the students.  Parents can also offer support by taking an active part in their child’s education by studying with the child, challenging their knowledge at home, and holding their child accountable for their responsibilities.  When parents take the time to instill values like respect, self-reliance, responsibility, and manners in their child, parents are equipping their children with the tools necessary to have a successful education.

Communication between educators and parents is of utmost importance also.  When the lines of communication are open, parents and teachers can more readily and successfully tackle discipline, learning, or social issues and receive support.  Parents can now stay connected to educators and administrators through a variety of options including email, classroom blogs, the 1-call system, online classroom tools, social networking, and good old fashioned telephone and snail mail.  Thanks to technology many schools can hold real-time parent-teacher conferences using video conferencing tools, parents can ask homework questions and get an immediate response from other classroom parents or the teacher, and working parents can stay informed by reading their teacher’s classroom blog.  This increased availability can and should translate into better parent-teacher communication and a greater learning experience for the student.

When parents and teachers work together it is obvious that the student benefits, whether you choose to volunteer your time, services, or you just support quietly at home remember that you are just as responsible (and more too) for your child’s education and future.  It is up to you to show your child that you think education is important, that you support your child’s teacher and the effort he or she puts forth, and to instill the morals and values that will enable them to grow into contributing and valuable members of society.

10 Things I Learned from Type-A Mom Conference

Monday, September 28th, 2009

This past weekend, I attended the Type-A Mom Conference in Asheville. I met the most amazing women and had the privilege of getting to know them. It was a very emotional and powerful experience for me. I don’t even know where to begin! I attended a lot of great sessions. My favorite was the Town Hall Style session where the audience was allowed to participate. What a great idea!

What did I learn you might ask? Well, here it is:

1.) The energy you project into the world, comes back to you. If you are kind, considerate, and helpful, chances are people around you will behave the same way.

2.) Be open to learning opportunities. Each mistake is an opportunity to grow. Embrace it.

3.) Be respectful. Things that look easy to one, are not that easy for others.

4.) We are all in it together. Let’s help each other out. As we grow, it is our responsibility to help others.

5.) Don’t take anything for granted. Life is constantly moving us forward.

6.) Have fun. Push your own envelope and allow good things to happen.

7.) There are great role models out there and they are more than glad to teach and guide, if you are open.

8.) If you want more than one brownie, it is totally fine.

9.) Focus on what you do well and keep at it.

10.) Build relationships and keep them. They will outlast everything else. Life is too short anyway.

All in all, Type A Mom Conference is the best conference I have attended thus far. For me, the bar for future conferences has risen forever.

I better make sure that my panel on Twitter and Education at the 140conf is extraordinary or at least comes close. We are on at 8 a.m. on October 28th, 2009. I have a lot of work to do. Session information is here

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Teaching is like Gardening

Saturday, September 12th, 2009

Last week, I went to my son’s middle school for the “Back to School Night”. It was quite fast. We had 8 minutes in each class. Yes, 8 minutes. The teacher talked to us about all the class rules, schedule and other main things that are coming up in the year. The school is much bigger than my son’s elementary school. I was looking for some familiar faces in the crowd and found a few. They are all in different classes.

During the break, I was thinking of heading back to my son’s class when I met a mom who is also in my son’s class, rather, her son is. It was one of those moments where you know you must talk to someone but you don’t quite know why! I know that we are going to be friends for a long time.

The lady is taking classes to become a teacher. Her husband is a math genius. As we were talking, he mentioned that teaching is much like gardening and that her wife spends hours in the garden tending her plants. She likes the roses to be perfect and beautiful. She ensures that the plants are getting proper light, nutrition, and protection.

It struck me that the teacher at the preschool for my younger son has an incredible garden. I will take pictures and add them to this post. The backyard is so peaceful and calm. All her plants are flourishing. The front yard has beautiful flowers. There is a place right under the hedge where the snails congregate after the rain. When I go drop my son, we always look for snails under the leaves and my son squeals “Baby Snails! Sooooo cuuuuuuuuute!”. It is adorable. He also spends considerable time admiring the flowers. He is flourishing at this school. I couldn’t have chosen better.

Do you think there is a correlation between gardening and teaching?

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